Thanks to North West Georgia HPNA for hosting Deborah Grassman. She gave us lessons and reminders on care of our vets and care of ourselves. It made me think of my dad (Korean Conflict), and all the hidden heroes who passionately share their energy as caregivers. You really know how to plan an education day that nurtures nurses…thanks to you and your team….and especially thank you Deborah.
Thank you for teaching me about Soul Injury and learning to witness and be present with others’ pain, and my own [pain], without distraction.
I met with a Vietnam veteran yesterday and he thinks he is dying in the next several weeks. I was able to apply principles from Deborah's book, Peace at Last. It was awesome experience. He was sobbing. I not only welcomed him home, I apologized for what the government did and how he was treated when he came back. He put all his medals and War stuff in a box and threw it out the first day he got home because people were so hostile to him. He fell on my neck sobbing and it was one of the best experiences I have ever had counseling someone.
After I learned about Opus Peace and Soul Injury, I saw the relevance to an upcoming service we were having at the church I pastor. The purpose of the program was to raise awareness about Transgender individuals. In my sermon, I explained Soul Injury. Then I gave examples:
1. A child who loved to sing but was told by her first music teacher to mouth the works during the concert because her voice would “spoil” the piece. Years later when encouraged to sing at church, she replies, Oh no, I can’t sing…I’ll just listen.
2. A person I was marrying who insisted that the vow not include the words “for better, for worse”. When asked why, he spoke of his first marriage where his wife would withdraw every time he was boisterous, or upset, or even tried to give reasons for a differing opinion. “It was like I kept switching of parts of myself…I can’t show this. Oh I’d better not feel that… until there was less and less of me to share.
3. A child dreams herself a girl and finds themself full of joy after sneaking into their sister’s closet and trying on her clothes, only to have their father open the door, pull his son roughly out of the closet and beat him until the son promises never, never to do it again.
I am grateful to assist Opus Peace's mission to expand our culture's awareness about the truth and consequences of Soul Injury. Healing my own Soul Injuries has revitalized my life, and becoming a Soul Injury Ambassador has given me new ways to support others in their healing experience.
Our Executive Director at Smoky Mountain Home Health & Hospice, Tammy Francis, supports the Soul Injury movement. When we emerge as a thought leader in this movement, the investment will start to pay intangible returns. The Soul Injury message is Hospice's GIFT to the Medical Community; hospice will become part of a value-added TEAM, rather than the last resort. Then we will invited in to the care plan early on, not at the last minute. When January becomes national "Soul Injury Awareness Month" and Soul Injury language is included in the DSM and the ICD, then all will realize that “a small group of thoughtful, committed, individuals ....have changed the world.” Thank you for your tireless, continuous effort...
This is about healing the hurt in people so they don’t go out and hurt others. Soul Injury exists in some form in MOST people. It gives me great personal satisfaction to bring awareness to the concepts of Soul Injury, and then to hear others identify their Soul Injuries. I promote Soul Injury awareness because it can bring liberation to the unsuspecting.
My brutally traumatic childhood led me to pursue a personal interest and study in PTSD and the neurochemistry of the aftermath of trauma and its recovery. I attended an Opus Peace Institute leadership training to attend to the Soul Injury I had acquired. We all worked on our ‘stuff.’ The shift in the room was palpable. It started with anxiety and trepidation as soul issues were openly addressed, moved into unmourned loss, and then reached into the abyss of unforgiven guilt and shame. The exercises and tools used to re-own, re-home, and re-Vitalize the pain and guilt were simple yet powerful. It was unlike anything I have experienced or read about in my extensive study of trauma recovery.
Watching your video. Wow! I can learn so much from your work.