Liberating unmourned loss/hurt and unforgiven guilt/shame

Wounded Warriors: Their Last Battle

Many military experiences impact peaceful dying for veterans – even though their death might not occur until decades later. 

The stoic military culture, combat training, and war itself can change a veteran in fundamental ways; their families may also be affected. Emotional, spiritual, social, and moral injuries impact veterans throughout their lifetime, especially as they face death. Deborah Grassman has personally taken care of more than 10,000 dying veterans. This changed her. In this presentation, she shares with you what they taught her. You will be changed too. You will learn about the unique needs of veterans as they age and face the end of their lives, the impact of the military experience on families, and tools for effective ways to respond to veterans’ needs and the Soul Injury they sometime sustain.


  • Describe the emotional, social, spiritual, moral, and Soul Injuries sustained by combat veterans and their families and how these impact their Quality of Life
  • Identify tools that respond to  guilt and shame at the end of life so that a peaceful death can ensue
  • Verbalize influences that a military culture exerts on combat and non-combat veterans and their families
  • Briefly describe the major components of PTSD
  • Outline 3 combat/dangerous-duty veteran death trajectories requiring differing treatment plans
  • Identify appropriate assessment and intervention for combat and non-combat veterans
  • Identify tools for combat or dangerous-duty veterans, including: rituals, therapeutic letter-writing, and forgiveness